An Epitaph of An Empath(y)

For me, empathy is as simple as these 4 words: ‘I feel for you’.
Call a person an old soul or an empath, but  we actually have our own struggles. From difficult circumstances at office to miseries happened all at once, until it feels like the world has pushed us down to the position where we kneel and pray for the better times to come, the very first thing that we can do is to be fully aware and conscious of the impact of the struggles on the other person.

So, is it easy to be an empath? Not really, since it is also hard to relate to a condition or situation we haven’t faced or are not in. But trust me, it is still possible.

We all know the saying, ‘fake it ‘til you make it’. Despite of  our lack of experience in facing such troubles on someone, being an empath can be a big enabler to them who is currently carrying so much sadness, unhappiness, and are ‘disabled’. And when we do that, there is 2-way reciprocity aura coming from the interaction. It is when we totally change the way we perceive their situation, that we can be more prepared once we are on the exact situation and them, feeling relieved after sharing it with us. So it is a win win situation. No one really loses a thing in this particular situation.
The question then changes to, ‘why can’t we be one? Why are there so much hate going on right now, all around the world? Why they spend so much time hating, when they really can do a small empathing (things related to empathy) that could mean a world to someone else? Why do people always forget the most fundamental thing of being a person with soul, brain and heart, not only just a pile of fat blanketed in flesh that can walk? Seriously, why can’t we become a decent human?’.

Actually it only takes a teaspoon of empathy to make us one. It is never a hard thing to say please and thank you. It is not hard to help strangers on our way to office. It’s not hard to give a pat to a friend who just get yelled at the office. It is not a burden to give your seat to elderly people or pregnant women, or basically to everyone you think need the seat much more than you do. And it’s not that hard to compliment someone, instead of degrade.
The list is lining up to how easy it is to forgive a friend whom you believed just did terrible things to you. It is the proof that you have so much empathies inside so that instead of doing revenge, you choose to understand his situation until he decided to do such thing to you.

All in all, being aware of other’s misfortunes and/or experiences would enrich our lives, as well as it does to our writing skill. To be able to see and feel more, we can create a more profound stories. Isn’t it great when you need to write some stories, and all of your sense are coming alive? It would then create the mood and vibe until the writing process gets easier.

Empathy can make the world a better place, because when we have come to a certain level where we understand why people do bad stuff, there would be no hate, at all. Last, in professional life, being an empath would make us a more sensitive (in good way) person, where we can’t stand seeing other people suffer. By this, people would love us more without our knowing and have a lot of respect towards us.

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