Life is Short

Don't waste any second to some people who don't treat you in any respectful terms. 
People come and go, but the most important thing that would be remembered is not how they came into our life, rather what they leave to us. If you find your friends or partners don't treat you the way you treat them, you probably need to leave them and move on. This is for you who have tried your best to be dedicated in the relationship, but it turned out different to them. They are not dedicated as you are. And that is the sign. You probably should leave them. After some trials you give to them, and they fail on all of it, then that's it. Move on. Cut out. And you miss them all of sudden? You should ignore that kind of feeling. It may sound cliche, but damn, most of cliches in our life are universally true. It can't be helped. So when I said that you should not give in to text them (for example) when you miss them, you need to figure out these things.

Did you know that you were fine before them, and you will be even better without them (even if you don't feel it at the moment)? 

It's true. You were alive before they came. You should not then worry that you would be partially dead by getting abandoned by them, or when you chose to leave. If you find yourself having a hard time in moving on, then you need to know a few things:
- you existed before them.
- you were okay before they came.
- you were as cheerful as the sun on Sunday morning.
- you were a happy person.
- you never shut yourself out in your own bedroom, thinking hard about the way they treated you.

And when you find yourself now feeling or looking unhappy, gloomy, sad and morose, then you are in bad/toxic relationship or friendship. So you need to remember how you were before they came, and see how bad and negative you are now, when you find them take you for granted. You existed before they came and you will exist and thrive again without them. You are still the same person, so don't waste your time in playing role as stranger. Relearn how to be you, before they came and you will be recovered. You still have your dreams with you. You are still you. A cheerful person I have known, like ever.

The risk of being too open to other human beings (I said it so because ghosts or other creatures seem realistic and kind compare to humans) is that they can hurt us. The pain of being hurt would lead you to a moment when you would tend to pick people to be close to you based on the aspect of their trustworthiness, rather than simply, their generosity, or worse, our likeness towards them. You no longer can pick people to be your friends based on your feelings, damn, you would lose that gut feeling man. In the end, it would lead you to a closed person, or introvert you call it. But no, it is time to move on. Don't open up yourself completely. And once you have understood the risk of being open, the decision would end up on you, whether you would let them to come into your life or not.

This is apparently a part of life that we all have to go through. It is inevitable that people would hurt us or we would hurt them. Just think about our heart with its muscles getting some exercise by these people. But it is always you, who hold the decision, whether to let them drown you in a deep sadness or move on from them. Cut out these toxic people and learn that someone better would be the right companion to you. Isn't it natural, that we would end up being with some people who share similarity to us and ditch some that go oppositely? I have been through that journey. Like a lot. And that helps me write this thing and share it to all of you. Remember that you have no power in changing people to be better. The problem is on them whether they want to change or not. And I pity them who refuse to change and cannot learn from their mistakes. Sometimes even a donkey gets up and avoids the trap so that he would not fall into the mud again.

Lastly, it is not giving up, it is growing up so you can take care of your heart and soul.


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